The SundayLetter.
Every Sunday morning. One pillar at a time. From Kendra and Remi, before the week takes you.
Three pieces. One Sunday.
The thinking.
A short piece on whatever pillar we are sitting with this week. What we noticed, what we tried, what worked and what didn't. Written from our kitchen table, not a content calendar.
A question to sit with.
One prompt to bring to your spouse, your kids, or a walk. The kind of question you wish someone had asked you years ago.
A cadence to try.
One small specific practice you can put into your week. Try it for seven days. Tell us what changed.
Sometimes a Trellis nudge at the bottom when the topic maps to something specific in the app. Most weeks, just the letter.
Before the week takes you.
We send it Sunday morning on purpose. You are still in family mode. The week has not started pulling at you yet. There is a window where you can take a beat with us, think, and bring something useful into Monday. That is the window we are trying to fill.
What a Sunday Letter looks like.
The conversation card move.
Hey y'all. Sunday morning. We are sitting with Raising Your Kids this week.
Here is what we have been doing at our dinner table for the last month. We have a small stack of conversation cards. Nothing fancy. Index cards, a sharpie, whatever. Each one has a question on it. Some are silly. Some are serious. Most are real.
Some examples:
- “What is something you are proud of from this week?”
- “If you could change one thing about our family, what would it be?”
- “What is a song you cannot stop thinking about?”
- “What is a moment you wish you could have a do-over on?”
Here is the rule. Each kid pulls a card. They get to pick who at the table answers it. They ask. They listen. Then the person they asked picks the next card and the next person.
That is it. That is the whole thing.
What changed for us. The dinner table stopped being the place where we asked questions and the kids gave one-word answers. The kids became the askers. Jaiye picked up that he could put Kendra and me on the spot, and you should see what comes out when our oldest gets to interview his dad.
It also slows the meal down. Which, real talk, is the whole point. You cannot rush a card. You have to let the person actually answer. The first week we tried it, Kemi asked me what I was most afraid of when I was her age. I had to put down my fork.
A question to sit with this week: Where else in your family rhythm are the kids in receive mode when they could be leading? Dinner is the easy one. What is the harder one?
A cadence to try: Make ten cards this week. Whatever questions you wish someone would ask at your own table. Put them in a small bowl in the middle. Use them for a week. Tell us what came out.
We do this in Trellis under Raising Your Kids → Dinner rhythms. The cards we use are in there if you want a head start.
Talk Sunday.
Kendra and Remi
Get the next one.
It lands this Sunday. Co-written by us. Short on purpose.