The EssaysVol. IArchive

Writing on
building a family
on purpose.

Long-form writing by Remi and Kendra. Organized by pillar. New essays on Sundays.

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Pillar 01 · Who We Are

Who we are: the first question.

Every family is being shaped by something. The question is whether we have actually named what is shaping ours.

Kendra Sobomehin · May 2026 · 7 min read

Pillar 01 · Who We Are

Constructing who we are.

Most families don't figure this out in one sitting. We didn't either. Here is the three-question process that gave us language for who we are, and why we still come back to it.

Kendra Sobomehin · May 2026 · 12 min read

Pillar 01 · Who We Are

We were running on memory.

Kendra reminded me ten or eleven times to call somebody about a door. I let it slip ten or eleven times and thought she was being difficult. She wasn't. We were running on memory and didn't know it yet.

Remi Sobomehin · May 2026 · 8 min read

Pillar 03 · The Partnership

The partnership at the center.

Everything you build as a family rests on the partnership at the center of it. The three things that keep ours strong: rhythm, repair, and real talk.

Kendra Sobomehin · May 2026 · 9 min read

Pillar 05 · Time and Rhythms

On Sunday meetings that actually work.

We tried the 90-minute family meeting. The printed agenda. The Robert's Rules version. None of it worked. Then we tried something embarrassingly simple.

Kendra Sobomehin · April 2026 · 7 min read

Writing onbuilding a familyon purpose.

Who we are: the first question.

Constructing who we are.

We were running on memory.

The partnership at the center.

On Sunday meetings that actually work.

Writing on
building a family
on purpose.